Mindy Kaling, the well-known actress and writer, recently opened up about the significant role her long-time friend and former boyfriend, B.J. Novak, plays in her life and the lives of her three children. During an interview with Bustle, Kaling revealed that Novak is “such a huge part” of her family, a sentiment that resonates deeply with both her and her children — Katherine “Kit,” aged eight, Spencer, five, and Anne, two.
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Kaling underscored the affectionate bond between her children and Novak, stating, “He really is in our family, and I love talking about him because my kids adore him, and he’s such a huge part of our life.” Her candid remarks highlight the closeness they share, although Kaling acknowledges that this connection may lead to speculation from outside observers. “If I was watching it from the outside, I would have the same questions and the same reactions,” she admitted, shedding light on the nature of their unique situation.


The partnership between Kaling and Novak dates back to their time on the set of “The Office,” where they maintained an on-and-off romantic relationship from 2004 until 2007. Despite moving on from their romantic involvement, they have cultivated a strong friendship, marked by Novak’s role as the godfather of Kaling’s children.
In her reflections, Kaling also addressed her unexpected journey into motherhood as a single parent, revealing some of the complexities of her choice. She confessed that the decision felt “really crazy,” particularly given her self-professed perception of not being a “kid person.” “It’s one of the biggest mysteries in my life,” she explained, pointing out that her desire to have children existed independently of an active fondness for kids. “B.J., for instance, he’s always been a kid person,” she noted, contrasting her experience with Novak’s natural affinity towards children.
The dynamics of their relationship continue to be interesting, particularly with regard to how her daughter Kit has affectionately nicknamed Novak “Fofo,” inspired by a character from a children’s educational series. In a humorous moment shared on “Watch What Happens Live,” Novak spoke about his special relationship with Kit, revealing that he even got her a stuffed animal of the same character, which delighted her. This charming exchange showcases the light-hearted and nurturing dynamic they share.
Kaling also praised Novak’s ability to engage with children on their level. She emphasised that he has a genuine way of connecting with young ones, which was highlighted during the interview when host Andy Cohen playfully remarked on Novak’s ability to relate to kids, calling it a talent. Novak, acknowledging the joy he finds in these interactions, added that his pursuits in children’s literature stem from a deep-seated love rather than purely commercial interests.
The close-knit nature of their friendship and family ties has been evident for some time. Kaling initially shared that Novak was godfather to her daughter Kit in a 2019 interview with Good Housekeeping, where she fondly remarked, “The truth is that B.J. is so much more like family now than a platonic friend.” She reiterated that he often visits their home to spend time with the children, showcasing the depth of their bond.
As a single mother, Kaling’s reflections on parenthood and her friendship with Novak provide a glimpse into the challenges and joys of modern family dynamics. While she may not have envisioned herself as a traditional “kid person,” her journey into motherhood has been enriched by the unwavering support of her close friends, including Novak. Together, they navigate the complexities of family, friendship, and the shared experiences of raising children in an increasingly diverse world.
Kaling’s insights continue to resonate with many, offering a refreshing perspective on the evolving definitions of family and friendship. Her openness about motherhood, coupled with the enduring connection she shares with Novak, speaks to a broader narrative about love, support, and the complicated nature of relationships in today’s society. As they journey through life together, Kaling and Novak exemplify the idea that family can be created and nurtured in many forms.
