Sara Gilson’s Ex and Father of Her Kids ‘Begged’ Influencer to Break Up with Estranged Husband Before Her Murder (Exclusive)

In a tragic incident that has shocked the local community, Sara Gilson, a 43-year-old influencer from Oklahoma, was found dead in her home on July 23rd, following an alleged murder-suicide involving her estranged husband, Jeremiah “Shawn” Duffey, aged 48. The case has drawn attention not only because of the shocking nature of the crime but also due to the serious allegations made against Duffey prior to Gilson’s death.

Gilson’s ex-husband, Lyle Landers, spoke exclusively to PEOPLE, revealing his deep concern for Gilson’s safety during her relationship with Duffey. Landers expressed that he had repeatedly urged her to leave Duffey, describing him as a consistent risk. “Shawn had been a risk for her since they got together,” Landers stated. He went on to describe Gilson’s struggle within a relationship marked by domestic abuse, saying, “She had been stuck in a relationship where domestic abuse seemed ‘okay’.”

Landers emphasised that he had offered his support for five years in an effort to help her escape. However, he noted that Duffey appeared to maintain a troubling level of control over Gilson, making it difficult for her to break free. “It seemed like she couldn’t get away,” he reflected, revealing the deep concern he had for her wellbeing.

Authorities have confirmed that Gilson was fatally shot by Duffey, who then turned the gun on himself. This chilling incident occurred mere weeks after Gilson publicly accused Duffey of engaging in inappropriate behaviour with minors, including allegations of pedophilia. On June 10, a protective order was filed against Duffey after accusations that he had behaved inappropriately with a 15-year-old girl whom he coached in basketball. The girl’s mother claimed Duffey had been seen kissing and touching her daughter, and had attempted to silence her with threats and monetary offers.

The severity of the allegations led to Gilson seeking legal protection against Duffey. Court documents revealed that she had previously sought two protective orders in 2021, both of which were dismissed due to her failure to appear at the hearings. However, the situation escalated when she filed for an emergency protective order on June 10, leading to an order requiring Duffey to vacate their home and remain at least 100 yards away from her.

In further distressing details, Gilson claimed in her protective order application that Duffey had threatened suicide, demonstrating alarming instability in his behaviour. The protective order was set to remain in effect until August 24. Gilson’s attempts to secure safety for herself and her children were tragically too late.

Remembered fondly by Landers, Gilson was described as “a beautiful person, inside and out.” He mentioned her roles not only as a mother of their two children but also as a sister, daughter, and friend. “Her greatest achievement in life, though, was in our two babies,” he remarked, underscoring her dedication to motherhood. Landers noted that Gilson was often concerned about her abilities as a parent, but ultimately excelled in her role.

Gilson’s life, centered around her children, was a source of immense pride for her. “She was always so worried before we had kids that she wouldn’t know what to do, or that she wouldn’t be a good mum,” Landers recalled. “Turns out, she was a great mum.” This tragic event has left a significant void for her family and friends, who mourn the loss of a woman they described as vibrant and loving.

In the wake of this tragedy, a GoFundMe page has been established to support Gilson’s children as they navigate life without their mother. The page describes Sara as an incredible mother whose children were her world, and it aims to provide financial assistance during this difficult time.

Landers, reflecting on the profound impact of Gilson’s death, expressed disbelief at the loss. “It’s unfathomable,” he said, as he continues to seek ways to ensure a stable environment for their children amid such heartache. The community is now left grappling with the aftermath of this heartbreaking situation, as calls for support and awareness around domestic violence and child protection grow louder.

For those in need, resources are available for anyone experiencing domestic violence or suspecting child abuse. Proper hotlines and confidential support systems are in place 24/7, ensuring help is accessible for those in dire circumstances.