Hoda Kotb, the former anchor of the Today show, has recently opened up about her experience of co-parenting with her ex-fiancé Joel Schiffman. In a recent appearance on Today with Jenna & Sheinelle, Kotb reflected on the significant role Schiffman plays in the lives of their two daughters, Hope and Haley, particularly during special occasions such as Halloween.
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Kotb, 62, who shares daughters aged seven and nine with Schiffman, said that having their father present during key events is becoming increasingly important as the girls grow older. This realisation was particularly evident during a Halloween parade held at their school, where Kotb took note of her daughters’ delight in seeing their dad.
The Halloween festivities were marked by a light-hearted theme, with Kotb and Schiffman donning matching “deviled eggs” costumes for the occasion. Kotb acknowledged the meaningful impact of Schiffman’s presence at the parade. “This is one of those things that as the girls are getting older, having their dad there is much more important, I think, than ever,” she remarked.

At the parade, Kotb described how her daughters, who are usually a bit shy, enthusiastically ran towards Schiffman upon spotting him. “They saw Joel at the fence and bee-lined, and they were telling their friends, ‘That’s my dad,’” she shared. This moment highlighted the emotional significance of their father’s involvement in their lives. Kotb added, “When I was watching them say that, I thought, ‘Oh my gosh, come all the time, be here as often as you can.’ Because it matters.”

Kotb continued by addressing the challenges children face when dealing with family dynamics. She mentioned that kids often notice differences in their family structures, and there is a natural curiosity from others about their circumstances. “There are a lot of kids who will relate,” Kotb noted, reflecting on the common experience of children who may not always have their dad around.
While she vividly recounted how special Schiffman’s participation was, Kotb also praised him for his approach to fatherhood. “He’s showing up. It’s beautiful. He’s lovely. He was on cloud nine,” she recalled, expressing the joy of the family’s shared moments. The former anchor described a family gathering after the parade, where they shared a barbecue, underscoring a sense of togetherness despite their separation.
Hoda Kotb and Joel Schiffman became engaged in 2019 before deciding to part ways in 2021. Their journey as parents began with the adoption of Haley in 2017, followed by Hope in 2019. Despite the end of their romantic relationship, both continue to prioritise their daughters’ well-being and emotional needs.
Kotb has also been active on social media, sharing glimpses of their family celebrations, including heartwarming snapshots from Halloween. Her posts showed her children in their festive costumes, with Haley dressing as Abby Cadabby from Sesame Street and Hope as Chloe Charming from Disney’s Descendants. In one delightful photograph, the family dog, Waffles, was also included, dressed as a pumpkin, capturing the playful spirit of the holiday.
Through her candid reflections, Kotb emphasises the importance of co-parenting and the joyful moments that can arise from working together. It serves as a reminder that family bonds can endure, fostering love and support for children even amid changes in adult relationships. The positive dynamic between Kotb and Schiffman highlights their commitment to raising their daughters in a nurturing environment, despite their circumstances.
