Harry Shum Jr. and Shelby Rabara have built a remarkable partnership over more than ten years of marriage. The couple, both talented actors and dancers, is celebrated not just for their professional achievements but also for their enduring love story that began in the early 2000s. Their journey together has been marked by personal growth, familial joy, and creative accomplishments.
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Shum and Rabara initiated their relationship while establishing their careers in the entertainment industry. Rabara, through her connection to ‘Glee,’ played a significant role in shaping Shum’s trajectory. After appearing in the pilot in an uncredited role, she encouraged him to audition for the show, which ultimately led to his well-known character, Mike Chang. Reflecting on this pivotal moment in an interview, Shum expressed gratitude for Rabara’s support.


The pair became engaged in October 2013 and exchanged vows two years later in a picturesque ceremony in Costa Rica. Their wedding on 21 November 2015 was attended by several of Shum’s ‘Glee’ co-stars, showcasing the strong bonds formed during his time on the show. Their relationship continued to blossom as they welcomed their first child, a daughter named Xia, in March 2019.
In a recent interview, Shum shared insights into the key factors that have contributed to the longevity of their marriage. He remarked that the foundation of their relationship is “just loving each other in different stages,” highlighting that every phase of life demands a unique type of love and understanding.
Shum remains active in the industry, having joined the cast of ‘Grey’s Anatomy’ as a series regular in 2022. Despite his commitment to acting, he has not stepped away from dancing, as evidenced by his participation in the latest season of ‘Dancing with the Stars.’ Rabara was seen cheering for him during the season premiere, reaffirming their mutual support in each other’s professional pursuits.
Shelby Rabara, hailing from Orange County, California, boasts an impressive resume. Her acting credits include popular shows such as ‘Glee,’ ’17 Again,’ ‘2 Broke Girls,’ and ‘Goliath.’ She gained notable recognition for her voice work as Peridot in the beloved animated series, ‘Steven Universe,’ and more recently, she lent her voice to the character Snappy in ‘Toy Story 5.’ Additionally, she has a background in dance, previously being a member of the Laker Girls, the dance team for the Los Angeles Lakers.
A particularly memorable moment in their early relationship involved a screening of ‘Dreamgirls,’ which Shum revealed during an appearance on the Jennifer Hudson Show. Their shared emotional response to the film fostered intimate conversations and solidified their bond, making it a cherished first date.
In a remarkable addition to their shared interests, Shum and Rabara have ventured into children’s literature. In 2024, they co-wrote their debut book, ‘Martee Dares to Dance,’ which tells the story of a young Filipino boy who learns to embrace his passion for dance despite facing challenges. The couple expressed their motivation behind the book: to inspire children to have the courage to be their authentic selves.
Throughout their journey as a couple, including the ups and downs of marriage and parenthood, Shum and Rabara have demonstrated the importance of partnership, creativity, and resilience. Their story continues to unfold as they navigate the various chapters of their lives together, both as individuals and as a family.
