Tori Spelling, the well-known actress from the iconic television series Beverly Hills, 90210, has opened up about her current dating life—or lack thereof—after finalising her divorce from Dean McDermott last year. In a candid interview on Michael Rosenbaum’s podcast, Inside of You, the 53-year-old revealed that she is not currently seeking a romantic relationship, despite some physiological changes that may come her way.
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Spelling, a mother of five, emphasised that her priorities lie predominantly with her family and work at this stage in her life. She stated, “I’m so focused right now on work and kids that I don’t know. I’m not in my, like, ‘I-want-a-date era.’” The actress’s commitment to her role as a mother evidently takes precedence over any romantic pursuits.
During the conversation, Rosenbaum prompted Spelling to reflect on her perspective as a newly divorced individual. He asked if she felt inclined to seek casual dating experiences. She responded with ambivalence, noting that the idea of making small talk over dinner seems daunting. “I can’t imagine sitting at dinner and making small talk … That sounds exhausting,” she remarked.
The podcast host suggested a more relaxed approach to dating, hinting at the possibility of engaging in non-committal relationships. However, Spelling was firm in her stance, stating she isn’t interested in such arrangements at the moment. “No, I mean, maybe in the future, but right now, no,” she asserted.
Interestingly, Spelling revealed that she recently began hormone replacement therapy, a move that could potentially amplify her libido. With a hint of humour, Rosenbaum noted that this could result in increased dating opportunities. However, Spelling was quick to downplay this possibility, referring to herself as a “numbers girl” and indicating that her focus is not on casual encounters or quantity when it comes to relationships.
As the discussion progressed, Spelling expressed that her dating desires have evolved over the years. She now seeks “mental stimulation” from a partner, preferring someone with intellectual depth. “I just want that mental stimulation. I like to be challenged,” she shared, highlighting a shift in what she finds attractive compared to her younger years.
The actress also candidly addressed her concerns about the challenges of dating as a mother of five, stating that she has often wondered if her status would deter potential suitors. She has three daughters—Liam, 19, Stella, 18, Hattie, 14, and two sons, Finn, 13, and Beau, 9—with McDermott. “If I ever got a divorce, no one’s going to date me with five kids,” she said, acknowledging the complexities that come with her family dynamics.
In the realm of her ex-husband, Dean McDermott, the 59-year-old has been working on personal recovery, celebrating three years of sobriety. He cited this decision as the best he has ever made, attributing his struggles with alcohol as a contributing factor to their marital difficulties. His commitment to recovery indicates a potential shift in his life that may also influence their co-parenting relationship.
When Rosenbaum queried whether she could envision a reconciliation with McDermott, Spelling responded with uncertainty but recognised their lifelong connection due to their children. “We have five kids together, so we’re never going to be done. We co-parent really well,” she affirmed, indicating a commitment to working together amicably for their children’s sake.
As Tori Spelling navigates her new chapter post-divorce, her focus remains on her family and personal growth. With changes in her life and a potential for future romantic interests, she appears to be taking her time in redefining what she wants in relationships. Whether or not she enters her “I-want-a-date era” in time remains to be seen, but for now, her priorities are clearly set on her family and career.