Brenda Song, star of the new series *Running Point*, recently shared her insights on balancing her career and family life in an interview with PEOPLE. The actress, who is in a relationship with former child star Macaulay Culkin, reflected on how her perspective shifted after the arrival of their two young sons, Dakota (5) and Carson (3).
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Having grown up within the entertainment industry, Song’s perception of work-life priorities transformed significantly once she became a mother. She emphasised that parenting prompted her to become more intentional in managing her time. “I really had to be very intentional about it when kids came along,” Song explained. Together with Culkin, she adopted a “two-week rule,” ensuring that neither parent is away from home for longer than two weeks at a time.
However, as their children grow, maintaining that rule has presented new challenges. “It’s harder and easier at the same time,” she remarked. The couple faces mixed emotions as their boys become increasingly aware of their parents’ absences. While video calls help the children connect, they are also more likely to express their feelings about a parent not being home.
In her effort to prioritise family life, Song has relinquished certain household tasks. “I had to let go of certain things because I wanted to spend time with my kids,” she explained. She emphasised the commitment she and Culkin have towards being present at pick-up and drop-off times for their children. “We’re very, very fortunate to be in a position where we’ve never had an issue where one of us isn’t at home with the kids,” she added.
An interesting element of their family dynamic is the absence of a traditional nanny. Instead, Song’s parents are heavily involved in the boys’ lives, which she finds tremendously comforting. “My mom literally looked at me and was like, ‘If you get a nanny, I will be insulted,’” she said with a laugh. This family support not only alleviates any feelings of guilt she may have about working but also reinforces the bond between her children and their grandparents.
Despite this close-knit support system, Song acknowledged the increasing difficulty of reconciling her career while ensuring quality time for herself and with her partner. She now aims to prioritise self-care, a lesson she learned from her own mother. “I used to always tell my mum that she couldn’t take care of us unless she took care of herself,” Song recalled, reflecting on the irony of her previous advice as it applies to her current experiences as a working mother.
Song and Culkin share special moments together after their children are asleep, which they view as crucial for maintaining their relationship. Whether indulging in video games or catching up on their day, they carve out a routine that strengthens their bond amidst busy schedules. “Finding connection with your partner is really important because that’s a part of who you are,” she said, highlighting the importance of nurturing their relationship.
Looking ahead, Song is committed to ensuring quality family time remains a priority in her life, despite the pressures of her career. She understands that at the end of her life, it won’t be the missed professional opportunities that cause regret, but rather the time spent with her loved ones. “I don’t think that the thing I’m going to say is, ‘Oh, I can’t believe I forgot to do that phone interview.’ It’s going to be about time with my family,” she concluded.
As Brenda Song continues to juggle her professional aspirations alongside her cherished role as a mother, she embodies the reality that many working parents face. Her journey illustrates the balance between personal fulfillment and familial responsibilities, a theme that resonates with countless individuals navigating the complexities of modern parenthood.
*Running Point* is set to return for its second season on Netflix on April 23, 2024, showcasing Brenda Song’s continuing evolution both on and off-screen.